I recently had a conversation with a woman who was in an abusive relationship. She and I were apart of a domestic violence awareness conference over the weekend. During our conversation, she gave details
(i will spare most of the details here) in which would make any human being cringe. Her situation specifically started with a man that truly seemed like "Mr.Right". He called and checked in on her frequently, made surprise visits to her job, and offered to take her anywhere. She went on to say how often he paid for everything such as, clothing, household items etc. With such an attitude what woman wouldn't fall in love with a guy like that. I mean, he IS Mr.Perfect right? EXTREMELY wrong. About 3 months after being married she noticed certained things started to change. In her exact words, "His motives had gone in a different direction." She noticed all those thing he did for her was a method of control. HE wanted to now what she spent her money on, her location, and who she was with at all times. Disguised at first as an caring man he turned into a household dictator. Afterwhile, things turned violent. When I asked her why she stayed as long as she did, (they divorced after a 4 year marriage) her reply was "We were married". She continued to state how she took those wedding vows as they were. "For better or for worse, I meant that." she added. I asked "Even at the expense of your own life? That type of marriage is not a marriage at all."She agreed and said " Sometimes you have to be strong hearted." She was very strong hearted. While with this man she gave birth to twin boys. She expressed how she wanted her children to grow up with a complete home. One day she realized if she stayed with him that would not happen anyway. This woman was truly a strong woman. Even though it caused her physical and mental damage, she stayed true to her wedding vows and her children for as long as she could. She is truly admirable person.
Wow... I couldn’t agree with you more, she is a very strong woman. Now days most men think that women are not strong enough to survive without them, but they are wrong in so many different ways. The women who think they can’t survive without a man has either not tried because they are scared of what might possible happen or they just think they need a man to complete them. For those women i say that we are strong, beautiful, independent individuals and we don’t need a man to complete us. Women are very important in life but we are taken for granted all the time. Not only are we taken for granted at times, but so is our love. When a woman loves, she loves deep and hard. But for this woman yes i say she is a very strong woman and she stays true to her words.
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